You may not be able to change your current situation. You can, however, change your attitude in the situation. A change in attitude can immediately make you happier. Change your thoughts about the situation — and that will start the process toward changing your attitude.
More than 2,000 years ago, the Greek philosopher Epictetus said it first: “People are disturbed, not by things (that happen to them), but by the principles and opinions which they form concerning (those) things. When we are hindered, or disturbed, or grieved, look first to ourselves — not to others, use our own principles and opinions.”
Cognitive Behavioral Theorist Albert Ellis, famous for developing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), explained that “how” people react to events is largely determined by their “view” of the events, not the events themselves. Ellis credited Epictetus for foundational views that helped develop this modern day therapy.
First, you can’t change anything if you aren’t aware that something needs to be changed. Stop the cycle of wishing things were different and take control of your thoughts, reactions to events, and people. With awareness, you can make a simple change in the way you respond internally and with those around you.
Use positive language with statements like, “I am hopeful,” or “We will find a solution”. The words you use have major impact on your attitude and emotions. Remember to surround yourself with people who have positive energy. Pay attention to the words they use. You will be amazed how simple it is to intentionally use positive words.
Find a positive quote and say it aloud every morning. My daily quote is, “It’s going to be the “Best Day Ever.” I set the intention every day. When things go wrong at work, my co-workers will say “Best Day Ever” with a little sarcasm — still I set that intention every day. Positive language sends your energy in an expectant and optimistic direction. This is a simple and effective method for retraining your subconscious mind.
So, the next time you are faced with a situation, remember these tips for changing your thoughts and perceptions — while improving your attitude. You may not be able to change the situation, but you can choose your response. Soon, you will notice a shift in your attitude and so will the people around you! Remember my friends and readers, embrace Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Love God and all people. Amen.
